How To Transform Your Anger Into Change

Ever felt angry or frustrated because you are not where you want to be?

We are talking so much about success, and wins, but we’re rarely talking about frustration, and anger. And I mean the frustration or anger of feeling that you are not where you are supposed to be.

We like talking about pleasant emotions, but avoid conversations about the unpleasant ones. And we have the tendency to portray our lives in a shiny light to prove that “we made it”.

But life is not about making it. Life is about finding your path in your own pace. With all the trials, and errors, ups, and downs.

As much as I appreciate social media for many things, it can easily make us think that there’s those who win, and those who lose.

And too often we think that we are on the losing side of things because our shortcomings are our own fault, right?!

I’m not embarrassed to admit that I often feel frustrated or angry. In fact, I felt like this quite a lot during the past months. And I surely will in the future.

If you have, like me, high standards for your life, patience can be hard. And I know the path is the way, and not the goal.

But I still have goals, and sometimes it’s fucking hard to find a balance — between the NOW and what’s yet to come. Between putting in the work, and enjoying the ride.

I recently heard: “Suffering arises between knowledge and action” (@Ina Hippold)- and this could have not resonated more.

It made me realise that: frustration and anger hold a lot of power. The power to change something you know deep within you. The power to act.

In fact, I’ve been the most courageous when I transformed my anger or frustration into self-compassion, and constructive confidence to make a move.

🔥Have you ever done a workout while feeling angry?
🔥Have you ever screamed it all out?
🔥Or punched a pillow wholeheartedly?

I can only recommend it.

Anger and frustration are part of who we are. The question is whether you allow them. How you transform them. And how you practice self-compassion in times like these…

Here are 5 tips:

1. Release the energy: do a workout, go for a run, or punch a pillow.
2. Sit it out: it’s unpleasant, but you need to feel what you feel.
3. Seek inspiration: listen to a podcast, or read a book that motivates or empowers you (not the opposite!).
4. Give it time: be patient. You don’t need to solve anything. There are better days, and more difficult ones. That’s what makes you human.
5. Compare to empower yourself, not to demotivate yourself. Choose wisely: what is helping you right now?

May you channel your anger into change today!